I’ve been thinking about this a lot more recently.
In psychology, masking refers to “camouflaging” when someone attempts to hide their natural personality or behaviours to conform to social pressures, abuse or harassment. Masking can also refer to concealing emotions, hiding your authentic self or changing your behaviour to “fit in”.
Masking happens for many reasons but the root of it seems to be safety, security and acceptance. People-pleasing is a form of masking.
I’ve always felt the skin is not just a shield to protect us from the external environment but also a mirror to reflect our internal universe.
When there is alignment, expansion and flow, the skin glows. When there is stagnation or suppression, we can only ignore it for that long until our body can’t take any more and rebel. It’s the only way to get our attention to change things because what’s “working” is no longer working.
I’ve seen in my patients when they make changes that’s aligned with who they are and who they want to be (based on their core desires and not others), their skin seems to breathe a sigh relief. Their spots calm, wrinkles soften, skin tone more even and texture smoother.
I’ve seen this in myself. My skin was irritated, splitting, weeping and painful. It was how I was feeling inside of me as the world I knew crumbled and I had to rebuild new foundations, based on who I truly was and who I wanted to be.
If you’re struggling with your skin, consider asking yourself if you’re wearing a mask in your life that is no longer serving you and it’s begging for your attention to change.
Taking down the mask is uncomfortable, totally unglamorous and often heart-wrenchingly painful. Sometimes it’s just easier to keep the mask on and find other ways to plaster the cracks or numb the grumble inside. There’s plenty of ways to do that.
And yet, you catch a glimpse of the possible light shining through and feel there’s more living and life waiting for you.
Find a community to support you in the transition. Seek the guidance of a coach, practitioner or therapist if you feel called to.
It’s a road less travelled for sure and somehow I feel it will be totally worth it ❤️ ...